Dear Aunt S,
How much hurt do we – should we – have to put up with from friends who date a lot?
My weekend just got fucked over by a good friend who found a temporary significant other — AGAIN! It’s not always the same friend, but it’s always the same thing.
I guess this is rhetorical, but thanks for letting me vent.
Not Even The 3rd Wheel
Auntie is here for you. Auntie is ALWAYS here for you, unless @RealBobWilson wants to go somewhere. Sorry, I know that wasn’t funny. Well, maybe a little bit.
It won’t comfort you to know it was ever thus. Og and Nk used to go to the mammoth races, leaving poor Erff to sit by the cave waiting for Netflix to be invented.
If your committed-to plans are cancelled at the last minute because of a hook-up (doesn’t matter whether it’s actual or only potential) then yes, you’ve been de-prioritized and that sucks.
If the same person does this to you more than twice, then shame on you.
Since choosing asexual or hopelessly un-charming friends isn’t always an option, Auntie suggests that you plan more group activities. That way if one or two people go A.W.O.L., the festivities can still go on.
But you should know that those one or two people value their sexual gratification more than they do your friendship, and work around them for companionship. Because — and Auntie is really sorry to say this— that ship has sailed.